MENTAL HEALTH IN HOUSEHOLD

Family is a place where we feel safe, it's a place where we are supposed to feel safe. We should be at ease to share our problems and opinions. Home as a place where we are not judged or questioned or light for condition, but love unconditionally.

 During pandemic when we were asked to stay home at big ning it was fun to spend time with the family but with time it also brought out the air humans that were put off for too long.

Every member of family has their own battels to fight which sometimes others can't see.

Men are always expected to provide. They feel they are only loved when they provide. 

The believe they have to be strong with least emotions, stand tall high, and act as if everything is fine.

 We tend to forget they are humans too. They also need a place to save space to sit, talk, vent & cry. But we usually neglect their emotions and make them believe that they should do that too.

 The women are usually considered as emotional one it is believed that they easily talk their heart out to their friends and family. But we often tend to forget the struggle of their own. They're usually prey of high expectations Of husband as ideal wife, kids think of her as perfect mother and family think of her as "Managing it all". 

We ignore things like postpartum depression, lack of time and invisibility.

 From the beginning girls are taught to be PEOPLE PLEASER. They are discouraged to set boundaries with people which becomes problem later even in official places and  at household to when a woman is unable to say no to her husband, kids and in laws. 

 Children and teens are the most talked about but still forgotten in every day struggle. Parents never stop comparing their achievements from other kids. High expectations are set for the Kids. Children often feel that they'll be loved only when they meet expectations set by their parents. This causes validation problem and usually kids or teens go out and seek it from other peers because pleasing their parents become really difficult. 

Teens usually live double life because there are many things which are parents don't approve. This leads to problem in their life, with no one to talk to and they feel like no way out. 

Also physical or emotional absence of a parent from a person life cause them "Mother or Father issues" sometimes which causes hatred towards family, bonds or love .

Teens try to "GET IT ALL" but restrictions put on by family make them feel more trapped and they loose family as Safe Space. 

A way to avoid through all this is proper communication. Family should talk about their feelings how they feel about certain things validation absence of parents restriction or some rude comment and how they made it them feel. Communication is the key for every relationship.